Giving Respect

We often hear the word respect when we grow up. Our parents reminded us that we have to respect our teachers and older generations. Many also use this word as a demand, like “I am the boss! They must respect me!”.

The word respect is most used and understood by many when they feel deep admiration of someone because of his/her abilities, qualities, or achievements.

There is nothing wrong, and it is easy to respect others who have success stories. But what about everyone else who is still growing and finding their way in the society?

The most important aspect of respect is often forgotten, or less instilled in our culture. That is, giving respect to others regardless of their status and traditions; to those who choose different schools, degrees, professions and come from different background.

The lacking of this type of respect is one of the reasons there are so many relationship problems at work and at home.

At workplace, we often hear comment like: “those people from the other departments don’t know what they are doing!”. Many also feel that certain jobs are not as important as their own job. Lack of respect for each other create stress at workplace, not to mention lost of productivity!

At home, it is easy to criticize or disrespect your family members who do or like something different from you. In addition, the lack of respect often lingers between two generations who have different views due to generation gap.

Give Respect, Earn Respect

Giving respect is an act of acceptance; it comes from our thoughtfulness for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others, no matter who they are, what they have, or where they come from. Equally important, giving respect allows us to see and appreciate others’ gifts, talents, abilities and contributions. It is no surprise that successful leaders who give respect to each of the team member are able to utilize each individual’s talent(s) to the fullest, build a strong teamwork, and in return, earn full respect and loyalty from the entire team.

Give Respect, Less Judgement

Our nature often judges instead of respecting others because of their differences. The good news is, we can practice and consciously make an effort to look at others’ differences as something to respect. When we choose to give respect and treat each person as unique and special individual, we find that there is less judgement in our relationships.

This kind of respect in fact uncovers one of the secrets of happy, healthy, and lasting relationships. Giving respect to others no matter their achievement status is the most considerate and loving gesture we can give.